My first step out of Newcomers

[Can it work]

Hey there. I've been a bit quiet these last couple of days so I can take stock of my sitch a wee bit. I'm feeling quite comfortable in my mind right now and have a bit of extra confidence due to knowing that I have a DB Coach who is going to be helping me. I've been keeping contact with my W to the absolute minimum and it seems to be working out fine. She messaged me yesterday about arrangements for me having Wee Man in April (I have a lot of overtime to do at work) and I basically ignored the message for the whole day and only replied to it last night. According to my DB Coach it's little things like that which will make a difference and put the message accross that I'm no longer pursuing her. Time will tell though.

Just looking at your last post here PM and you have a question at the end asking what to do when my S gets all quiet and shuts me out. By S do you mean son or spouse? If it's son you mean, I think he's too young to do anything like that so I assume it's spouse you were meaning. My W has been getting quiet and shutting me out most of the times I've been around her since the separation. That's why my DB Coach told me just to direct all my questions to Wee Man and not my W. In effect I'm shutting her out. It does feel completely counter-intuitive but apparently it's supposed to.

I need to phone to make my next appointment next week. I'm looking forward to it.

Kev