In a "normal" situation you would be absolutely correct. There should be accountability and consequences for the actions and the deceit and all of the other BS.
But MLC is not normal.
To be perfectly honest with you, trust is huge with me. When my Husband came home I did not trust him at all. I remained very detached for quite a long time.
I too am a realist believe it or not....and the reality of the situation was this....
I had been Married to this Man for over 20 years. We had 8 children, a dog and a Mortgage.
He betrayed my trust, turned my world upside down, screwed up my kids, spent all of our money, the list goes on.
But on the flip side, this was the Man I had promised to love and grow old with, the Man that I promised to love in good times and in bad times.
He chose to leave, but he also chose to come home. And for me it takes more guts to admit you are wrong and come home then it does to run away from your family.
It took a long time for him to be able to tell me how badly he screwed up. His apology was heartfelt. The words were not empty.
Our Marriage has been alot of hard work and tears, but we are also not the same people anymore. We both changed.
BND, I truly respect and admire you for all that you have overcome, I mean that sincerely!! I guess you and I will have to agree to disagree on part of the MLC thing! I am happy for you that you have a new marriage, committment, and a new life! I guess that sometimes I come accross as being resentfull, bitter, and the like. I can promise everyone that nothing could be further from the truth. I have a new relationship, and God forgive me, new love! LOL I held my breath when I made that last statement! Anyway, I have just seen so much hurt done by these people that it truly does break my heart to see people spend years hoping they will come back and they don't. Its truly a waste of life for someone who doesn't care. Anyway, that's more of my .02 worth! BND, I'm still going to make you do some squats!! LOL
