AFWAW, I hate to break it to you, but the whole thing about forgiveness for past transgressions is just an excuse. It is another way of saying ILYBNILWY.
Somewhere, underneath all the stuff that is being said publicly is the real reason that this is happening. It may have something to do with the way that you treated her in the past, but my suspicion is that it is only a minor component.
Your D13 sounds exactly like my D12, right down to her attitude and feelings toward her mom. In my case, I think I told my D12 too much information about what mom and dad were going through, and my W clobbered me for being too informative with them. If either of our sitches end up in divorce court, it can be detrimental that we have been so open. Just a thought.
Hang in there man, your roller-coaster ride is just starting.
Me40 WAW37 M18 T20 S18,14 D13 EA Bomb 6/08 Sep 11/20/08 Ret 08/09 Sep/Filed 11/09