First post... looking for advice and where I'm at.

[sweet-1]

Okay, so I drive to the next town today to deliver a computer to be repaired, after she should have been at work (wanted to avoid her). But along the side of the road i see her ford explorer and his truck parked, her driver's door is open, he's leaning in over her face and appears to be passionately kissing her. They didn't see me, but I stopped a little ways down to get my digicam out. By the time I got it out he was back in his truck driving away (N), and she drives away (S). So I phoned her and we chatted for a minute before I asked waht she was doing "just driving to work" It's almost noon, usually starts at 09:00. I asked how Trevor was, "don't know haven't talked to him lately" That's when I mentioned what I had saw. She got quiet, mumbled a bit etc, then said they were just friends and he was just saying goodbye. He's married, but W lives in another province looking after a resort they own, he's here in Alberta working for extra income in the winter. My wife landed last night at 20:00 from a 2-day conference (he wasn't there, it's legit and I'm really proud of her going to these..or was), so I asked what do you mean saying goodbye? Does he often drive 1 hour to see someone the first day home to say goodbye? She didn't answer, so I told her i know about the hotel rooms in remote towns where he works (his company pays for rooms, but yet he's paying cash for these nights), she said she went there to see him because he was working there (3 hrs away, ditched work, stayed overnight, then till 11 next night). She doesn't figure it should matter to me because we're separated and she served me with papers on Feb 18. Yet I can prove this was going on in Nov, besides, he's married as well. Her family are staying out of it, except her father who is siding with her "she has to do what's right by her". i hope he realizes he's just enabling, and that a relationship started in infidelity probably won't last lone. He's 40, so is my wife, they went to high school together but hadn't seen each other since grad, he has no kids, owns a $2.2M resort in British Columbia (for sale), lives the bachelor lifestyle etc. My wife is 40, we have 2 kids, she has some self-image issues etc, I hope this is worth what it's doing to us.

I tried to contact his wife today but no answer or message.

On one hand I'm relieved that I witnessed it with my eyes, but on the other it's awful final. But I still find myself wanting to fix this, because the old woman was so beautiful and full of life.

Side note, her boss commented today, that the only time he's seen her act like this was 13 years ago when we first started going out (giddy, childish etc). it seems kinda true but this seems more selfish where as that was free spirited.

I've said my piece to her, but I doubt she will talk to me anytime soon. That's been the usual pattern, just ignore me and avoid all conversations etc.

If on the odd chance they are "just friends" which she will have o prove beyond doubt, I may have some apologizing to do. But if I'm wrong, I will do it for sure.

L