What's next???? The adventure continues!!!

[AFWAW]

Ok, another interesting twist. The wife called again wanted to talk to D13. D13 comes to me after about a 5 min conversation and wants to talk. I say what's up? She says, mommy wants me to call her every night at 7. I said ok. She said I don't want to. If she wants to talk to me why can't she call me? I said that's a good question. She said she's the one that left, she's the one that should be calling. I said that's a good point. Did you tell her this, I asked? She said no. I asked how come? She said well, she'll get mad. I said does that really matter to you? She said I don't know. I said, did she seem to care that you were mad that she left? She said nope she didn't. I asked what they talked about. She said the wife tried to force coversation about her day and my D13 was clearly annoyed. I told her that her mommy was still her mommy and she needed to respect her but she also needed to be honest with her about how she feels. I said, if she's mad what's she gonna do if she's not here? My daughter laughed at this. She also said that she had asked if my daughter wanted to do something this weekend. I said, what did you tell her? She said she would have to check with me. I asked D13 if she wanted to do something w/ her. She said no, I'm still mad at her and plus she's annoying? WOW--out of the mouths of babes.

Ok, I'm trying to be so careful here and not take delight in this because it is in fact tragic that this is unfolding the way it is, but I am learning a lot about the wife's behavior and my daughter's perception of her mom and her associated behavior and it's not good.

I told her she needed to be clear about her feelings and not sugar coat them. If she wanted to call, then call. If she didn't, then don't. When confronted though, tell mom, I didn't feel like calling or I don't feel like talking. It felt like a productive conversation and I didn't dog the wife at all to the daughter although I certainly could have.