I thought I was going to lose my shot at an orange belt tonite.
I had woke up this morning and decided to have a good day. Thought it could be the start of a trend - two good days in a row.
It started off well. My wife woke me up as she usually did so I can hop in the shower while she is doing her make up and hair. We chatted and joked lightly while I was shaving. Boys were up by the time I had gotten out of the shower. Before I left for work, I gave my youngest a hug and a kiss but then he chased me down for another one. My wife and I hugged good-bye and kissed on the check. I said "Have a great day today!" and I left for work. I usually say that in the morning before I leave, but I actually felt it then.
My wife wound up calling and leaving a message for me towards the end of the day (I didn't take the call) as my oldest is off school for a school holiday so she wanted to know if I was off that day. I emailed her my work holiday schedule and told her to let me know which day it was because I may be able to take off. She replied back right away that I was off as well, as a bonus it was on his birthday! I was pumped about that since it would give him and I some extra one on one time (it's tough to have since the birth of our youngest and this situation compounded it).
She then emailed me a menu of a resturant of that we had talked about last nite that she wanted to go to. I emailed me her back (after 15 minutes) that it really made me hungry since I missed lunch. She emailed me back right away that she was making steak, twice baked potatoes and veggies for dinner tonite. I emailed her back right away that sounded yummy and I'll see her at home.
She wound up calling me as she was leaving work and we chatted about miscelaneous stuff.
I had made myself a captain morgan and coke while I helped my oldest do his homework. When she got home from work, we hugged and kissed on the check again. I could tell she was stressing about as my youngest was really giving her a hard time. I took him from her and the three of us sat at the kitchen table at ate some chips as the two boys drew pictures.
My wife was making dinner and I could tell she was still stressed. I didn't let it bother me, nor did I comment, as I just enjoyed my time with the boys. Then I noticed she pulled out the martini glass. I asked her to make an extra blue cheese stuffed olive for me. She did.
We ate dinner and had some light conversation. She seemed pretty stressed/irritated about her day. I just let her vent as I empathized with her. My oldest wound up spilling a drink towards the end of dinner. I started to clean up, but apparently it wasn't fast enough for her as she snapped at me about don't just sit there holding the towel. I told her relax, I got it as I wiped it up. I didn't let her bait me into an argument nor upset me.
After the kids' bath, I saw she was down in the den. I didn't go in and just took care of some stuff for me. I called the boys when it was time to read books. My youngest came out right away to grab his books, but my wife said she was showing my oldest some pictures on the computer. I poked my head in and she showed me the pictures as well, then she started to show me other stuff on facebook.
I read the books to the boys, she sat down in the living room with us. Then while the boys and I were watching there show, I could see she was reading some official looking mail. I could tell it was agitating her - I assumed it was something related to our custody mediation that was coming up on March 30th.
We put the kids to bed, I came downstairs and saw it was exactly that. I went to do something else in a different room but when she came down she showed me the letter and said I had gotten the same thing. I just oh, I didn't see it yet. I asked her if she wanted to watch Lost. She said we could do that or talk about custody. I had really started to scramble as she continued to talk - I ws trying to remember the verbal ju-jitsu to avoid talking about this one. Fortunately my youngest came out because he had to go to the bathroom.
After I helped him, I went right to the television to grab the Lost DVD. She said she would rather watch something shorter, so I fired up TIVO instead. We watched Two and Half men (a show we watched betfore we started with Lost). We did stop in the middle to talk about various light topics. She was acting really tired, but I could also sense that she was stressed/agitated. I smiled inside as I thought it was a nice change of pace as she's waiting for me to make up my mind.
At the end of the show, she said she was going to bed as she was really tired (it was only 9:15 PM). We kissed on the check good nite and she went up to bed. This now breaks the streak of being intimate two Thursday's in a row. Hopefully, this will also break the streak of major setbacks/blowups two weeks in a row as well.
Her mom is suppose to watch the kids this weekend, so I'm looking foward to a fun weekend. If my wife wants to have fun too, then great, if not, I don't need her to have a fun weekend.
I have some thoughts, but could use some good specific examples of verbal ju-jitsu if she brings up the topic of deciding on a custody agreement again. Anyone have any suggestions/examples?
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13