have you read Kev's posts and history? His w has asked him to respect her boundaries and he won't. He has not kept one single promise for more than a few days, if that. He doesn't stick to a plan and he takes polls to see if he should change his mind again. He does whatever feels least painful at that moment, not unlike a teenage boy. His w needs to see him act like a man.
Sometimes that means restraint and keeping your word. Sometimes it means staying the course (any well thought out course...) and to stop obsessing. He needs to lose the illusion of control that he thinks he has, (and his wife said he had been acting controlling) and God knows he had been fixating and snooping...so how does your advice do anything but confirm her worst fears about control? Sure he signed a ridiculous agreement...b/c that was the least painful choice at that moment...see? Has he seen a real L in person to check out what his "real" options are? Probably not.
Sorry if this offends. I know diff situations call for diff measures and your approach may have worked wonders in your situation and maybe it lead you to grow and reconcile...I don't know b/c I don't know your sitch and cannot tell much by your signature. I just don't know.
But I do know Kev needs to make sensible choices that are the result of maturely thought out decisions. Not reactive ones. Which is what most of the choices he's made have been.
I stand by my earlier posts.
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