What's next???? The adventure continues!!!

[AFWAW]

Ok, the wife just called. I let it ring three times and decided to answer. I said hello as pleasantly as possible and asked her what's up? She said I was just calling to see if you're doing ok. I said of course, why wouldn't I be? She said did you have another counseling session today? nope, I said. Are you sure you're doing ok? Yes, why do you ask? I don't know I just wanted to make sure. Ok, I said. I asked, are you ok? She said great. She said well, I thought we were fighting. I said I wasn't aware that we were. She said ok, awesome. I said sounds good, I'll tell D13 that you called, have a good night.

I tried my best to have a PMA. She was confused I think but relieved. Now, this does one of two things: It gets her thinking as to whats going on with me--which I'm hoping(matter of fact I hope she thinks about it for hours) or worse, she is relieved that I'm making things easier talking to her and she can walk away with little guilt like she did me a favor or something.

Talked with a friend who I used to work with(one of those friends she says I didn't have)tonight for about 30 min and he told me that the new stimulus packages has flooded the government sector w/ jobs.

He told me there are quite a few that I would qualify for in Virginia. Hmmmmmm. It takes about 4-6 months to hear something back on these jobs, so I think I found something to do tomorrow at work. He pointed it out to me this way as well. He said, John, if your marriage works out then no big deal, if you get offered a job, you don't have to take it and if your marriage doesn't work out, you get to move, retire from the AF, be away from your ex-wife who you are obviously not comfortable seeing and as a bonus there are a ton of single, beautiful women in VA. Hmmmmmm, the man makes some good arguements.

We also discussed physicology and the art of attracting women and how it all ties in with DB. We are also going to lunch tomorrow. Good conversation.

Ok, I feel a little better. Things could be worse. I have my D13, the house w/ swimming pool, cool car and she took all the bills. I'm trying to stay positive here as hard as it is.

Had a good conversation w/ my D13 too. She was getting pissed about her friends saying stupid stuff. I suggested that she agree with them about whatever they were saying. She said but I don't agree. All the stuff they were talking about was things that didn't really matter like boys, classes being hard, makeup, etc. So I said, look how stressed out you are about stupid stuff. She said yeah, I guess. I said I want you to try something tomorrow. If its stuff like this, agree with everything your friends say. If they say a boy is cute and they want to go talk to him, agree with her and tell her she should go talk to him. If a friend says a class is easy, tell them you agree even if you don't agree. She said what does all this accomplish. I told her it will make her friends easier to tolerate for one because they won't want to argue with her because they know she will always agree. Additionally, if the subject is superficial anyways, my D13 won't have the stress of having to defend her position and she will be less stressed also. My D13 just smiled away and said let's practice, this is going to be fun messing with peoples heads. LOL!!!