I read the e-mails you quoted again and again, and I am starting to agree with Puppy. Worst case, it might be an EA at this point, but the evidence is pretty thin. If this is all you have got, I would probably not confront her right now. Maybe you have more that we do not know about.
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M43 W45, M17 S9 D6 Bomb: 11/11/08 EA: 10/26-12/31/08 ? Retrouvaille: 2/13-2/15/09 Healed, but still heading for D My situation