GG, the big problem with this whole thing IMO is the fact that most people regardless of the concequeces are not willing to admit they did wrong. That makes it SUPER TOUGH for the LBS to make a go at a new relationship. I also believe that an MLCer that doesn't come back with the hat in the hand, truly didn't come out of it the way they needed to and is subject to do it again. I also look at the respect factor, how can you respect someone that you crapped on then just come back with no concequences? I think that a lot of people are so desperate to have thier former spouse back that they overlook these things. Just my .02 worth.
This is why we acknowledge that the old Marriage is dead.
This is where forgivness comes in.
IF you are looking for a Hollywood ending complete with apology and flowers and chocolates, sorry, you won't get it in the begining.
Piecing, or as Jack likes to call it, Piercing is hard.
It actually takes a good couple of years for the Marriage to really and truly feel "normal" again after the MLC'er comes home.
My Husband has been home for almost two years now after a lengthy MLC. Our life together is very different now. We have a completely different relationship then the one we had before MLC.
I like my Marriage better this way. I do not take things for granted anymore, and neither does he.
Sorry for my rant, but again, I totally disagree with Braveheart about this, and wanted to give my .03 cents worth.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
