OK Gary....I didn't realize alcohol was such a problem in your marriage. Wow, your wife's childhood, just...wow. No wonder your wife has these issues, seriously.
Did you see Lucky's second post to you on this thread? I am curious to these answers too, like what exactly about your wife do you love? What is keeping you in this marriage? Be honest if you can, is it just fear of failure or fear of being alone that keeps you there?
I have to say my gut reaction is that your W is definitely an alcoholic, and so no wonder she doesn't want to do counseling. Addicts do always know on some level that there is a problem inside of them, and active addicts will refuse to discuss their addiction as if it is real, so that they can keep doing it. If they lay it on the table and discuss it, then they will also have to admit that they *know* it is harmful to them and to those around them.
Gary, if she is drinking 2 - 3 drinks PER NIGHT at home with you and your child, this is not showing she can "control" her drinking. This is full blown alcohol addiction.
As I am now learning to understand, addiction tendancies can flip on a person. An alcoholic may give up alcohol, only to pick up porn or gambling. So I would make a guess that her pirate issues are another form of her addiction process.
Please read all you can about alcholism, if you haven't already.
