I understand what your pastor is saying, because he knows the details of your sitch. Puppy's words are applicable, IF they have crossed the line. I guess we don't really know if W has, do we? And, the question is, do you want to know if she has?
I've read Puppy's snippets on snooping, if you feel you need to know. I don't have nearly enough reason to consider this, but there are a couple of things that bug me, a little/okay a lot sometimes (when I'm tired, buzzed, or hungry!). So, the food for thought applies if you "go there."
W appears to be working through the anger part, at least. I'm concerned that it has now transferred to you. How do we get a handle on that?
Weird Q... wondering if your D13 is having "the movie" about now in school. My S11, almost S12, is, (think it's common this time of year) and I talked to my H about discussing it with him after he had seen it (I guess 6th grade gets pretty detailed.) I wonder what the talk will be like... "this" is for committed, married people, between one man and one woman, etc... How would your W handle it now? Engaged? Or awkward? I think it might be telling. I don't feel like I can intrude on S11's time w/his Dad, so I won't pry, but I'd kill to be a fly on the wall.
Last edited by mindblank; 03/12/0909:46 PM.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
