GG, you are a veteran poster, not to say that you are old, just been at this for awhile. Its possible that your XH is trying some sort of reconnection, but based upon his responses to meeting with you "you don't have to" etc. I am concerned that he won't be able to admit he did wrong, nor he might not be able to do the work needed. GG, the big problem with this whole thing IMO is the fact that most people regardless of the concequeces are not willing to admit they did wrong. That makes it SUPER TOUGH for the LBS to make a go at a new relationship. I also believe that an MLCer that doesn't come back with the hat in the hand, truly didn't come out of it the way they needed to and is subject to do it again. I also look at the respect factor, how can you respect someone that you crapped on then just come back with no concequences? I think that a lot of people are so desperate to have thier former spouse back that they overlook these things. Just my .02 worth.
