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2) Most wayward spouses -- and nearly ALL wayward women -- have an enabling friend, usually a girlfriend, and maybe more than one that they surround themselves with. Has she cut off or pulled back on her usual relationships with friends and family, and gravitated toward a new small circle like this?

Found this posted by Puppy in someone else's thread. This is my wife--she has a friend that just recently got divorced and according to my wife HATES MEN! She works with her and I have noticed that during the week, my wife is more cold towards me, probably due to the support of this woman. My wife has told me that this woman is looking for a job out of state though. So, if she does and I hope she does quickly, maybe my wife will lose her support system. That would be nice. She also has cut off from her family and my family. She used to call her mom everyday and now maybe 2x a month if that. She has a small group of work friends that she hangs out with. She asked me the other day about our next door neighbors. Apparently, the wife had told my wife that she was considering divorcing her husband. The wife confirmed this with me and said that my wife also had said this, that she wanted to leave me. So, it looks like she tasted the kool-aid and liked it. Only thing, my next door neighbor claims she was just frustrated that day and just venting. She was astonished to learn that my wife not only left me but left my D13 as well. She said she doesn't understand the behavior. My wife asked me the other day if they were staying together as they are moving--I said yes, they are moving together. She kinda shrugged and said I guess they must have worked it out. Now I'm not saying that my next door neighbor had anything to do or any influence on my wife's decision but hey you never know. So to all you people out there, be careful what you say and who you say it to, cause you never know.

If only I can remain dark or unavailable without causing the wife to be reactionary she will miss what she has here and attempt to make her way home. Unfortunately for me, my wife's actions are based on from my perspective emotion and not logic. Any thoughts and or suggestions? How many days do you ignore phone calls if there is no message left?