My wife's affairs have always been with party guys.
She is very close to being an alcoholic. This is one reason we don't go to a marriage counselor any more. He brought up the subject. She refused to consider this is a possibility.
She grew up idolizing her aunt, who managed a bar and was an alcoholic. As a child, she wanted to grow up to be like her aunt, who had four husbands (I think, but I lost track). She remembered the perfume and the sense of excitement when her aunt would appear at her house late at night and wake her from sleep with a kiss.
Her aunt died alone in a trailer park. Her children all absolutely worthless (bums and alcoholics). You'd think my wife would see the irony here ...
My wife has shown that she can completely give up alcohol, as during her pregnancy. When she goes out drinking with friends, though, it almost always means she gets drunk. Yet, almost every night she has two or three drinks, and she doesn't let it drive her to excess. She can control her drinking, while in our home. She doesn't do as good a job of controlling her drinking when she's out with friends, though.
me: 50 w (waw): 45 daughter: 9 m: 16 t: 19 bomb: 9/26/08 status: physical separation for 7 weeks, then work-in-progress R
