Its still a problem to hear you say that she won't talk to you about any of this stuff. I know it would be hard for her to talk about it, but seriously, she really needs to. Not so she can talk about pirates and what she likes about them, because that isn't really what's going on. She needs to talk about it so she can help herself understand what is really happening when she goes off after a pirate. If she doesn't take the time to learn why she does this and what the attraction is for herself, then you two will have twice the battle you already have. She doesn't necessarily even have to talk to YOU about this, she could do it in counseling.
Also, why can't you be a ruthless pirate? Of course I mean only in the bedroom or in the seduction process, not in life...but why can't Gary be the sexy pirate who wants to ravage her?
