Newly Seperated - What To Do?

[Still Waters]

Your W's behavior is very typical of a wayward spouse. My W treats me like a stranger (or her enemy) and she's the one who had an A! It's hard for LBS's like us to come to terms with this. Because it just doesn't make sense.

This is something you'll hear over and over again: Don't try to rationalize your W's irrational behavior. It makes no sense for your W (the woman you trusted and loved more than anyone for many, many years) to treat you this way. And yet she does. And the reason is most often because she's fogged out on an affair. Could be other reasons, like MLC/depression, but whatever the cause, her actions are irrational.

I'm dark in my sitch too, and my W only contacts me when she absolutely needs to. We haven't had a real conversation in over a month now, and really I don't think I want to. Because whenever we do, it's like talking to a pod person.

Your coach sounds good. I think that all of us LBS's need a good kick in the butt. Stop tip toeing around our wayward spouses and start taking control back over our lives and our own happiness.