He's ticking down the MLC checklist

[HalfMissing]

No Jack, this is not bad form to suggest to someone that they think about the what the relationship was really like. These emotionally unavailable men can be very abusive emotionally. Their neglectful, passive-agressive behavior can rip your self esteem to shreds. Her husband has not suddenly changed due to a mid-life crisis. He has always had these emotional issues and behaved like a teenager to her. That is what I am trying to point out. There does not have to be physical violence for their to be abuse. This man may have always had a serious personality disorder.

BPretty, one good thing is that your husband acknowledges that he has been running from his emotions. As long as he is considering trying to work on himself there is hope.