Before our marital problems, my wife went to bed at 9pm and I went to bed ... whoa, around 11pm-2am. I worked on projects. I do a lot of volunteer work for conservation efforts. And I write for various publications. I didn't have to get to work until 9am.
But now, I go to bed at 9pm with my wife and I get up much earlier than in the past. So I try to be at work not long after 7am. Big change. But necessary to help establish some intimacy in the marriage--and to present a good rationale for getting our daughter out of our bed! (Which has been absolutely essential for getting the reconciliation process going.)
Sometime in the not-so-distant future I will need to resume SOME (but not all) of my outside activities. But I'm taking my time about it. Lots of bad habits to break and good habits to create.
Yeah, I "try really hard not to" stay up late with hobbies. That was a killer. But that's the only time for watching movies. Otherwise, it's nothing but Disney-approved family viewing. THIS I'm still wrasslin' with. Thank goodness my daughter has a taste for '50s sci-fi and silent comedies! So some of these movies have crept into our family viewing. She's a cool kid. She even watches the old Burns & Allen TV show with me, and seems to like it! (While my wife just grumbles.)
me: 50 w (waw): 45 daughter: 9 m: 16 t: 19 bomb: 9/26/08 status: physical separation for 7 weeks, then work-in-progress R
