I agree with AnotherNightmare, that both need to be committed to working on R and I also think you need to restore the connection or at least partially before watching also.
Yeah this ^
Trying to get the WAS to read/watch/act on R building materials too early will just come across as pressure. It also makes it look like you think they are the problem in the R and they need fixing.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
I agree with AnotherNightmare, that both need to be committed to working on R and I also think you need to restore the connection or at least partially before watching also.
Yeah this ^
DOH - now you tell me?!?!?
Oh well, onward and upward....
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
Definitely wait until the R is ready for the movie. A very good movie, btw, and one that the LBS will really connect with, but the WAS will definitely see pressure.
Me40 WAW37 M18 T20 S18,14 D13 EA Bomb 6/08 Sep 11/20/08 Ret 08/09 Sep/Filed 11/09
It's more a movie about what the soon to be LBS can do. Having your spouse see it will have less effect until you are both piecing. I think some people are missing the point of the movie. It's main point is to do what God wants you to do, to not give up on your partner. Look up Fireproof on Youtube and you can see a few small parts of the movie.
I watched it with my H...I'm an AWAW...and I didn't like it. It was upsetting. He acts exactly like that STILL. Just not all the time. And frankly...I thought it was a stupid Hollywood ending. Like wow, he's not selfish anymore. Like magic. Thing is, he really gave his life over to Christ.
My H says, wow we know what it's like to have been "there." Yeah, whatever. Like he ever did any of that. He's bought me flowers and cleans house. I'll say that. Meanwhile everything wrong in our house or R is still my fault. He also seems to think he's a Christian..who never reads the Bible or goes to church...just enough of a Christian to say he wants more of a Christian servant wife.
It was my stupid idea to watch the movie. I had heard so much about it I watched it out of curiosity as much as anything.
H also thought the wife got "too much of a pass" in the movie. What a surprise.
Anyway, don't expect too much, people. I've heard spouses say this will show their WAS's what it means to value marriage. A lot of WAS's were the only ones who valued it til they gave up. All it's going to do is put the pressure on YOU, LBH's, to be like the guy in the movie. That's a pretty tall order. Being a movie and all.
