I wish I lived in your state! We have a 60-day waiting period--although practicalities usually result in it taking longer than that. And about children meeting the OP--my D12 was surprised with dinner with OW and her daughter; no warning, no preparation, no discussion--until she got back home with me! I would dearly love to have kept D12 and OW separate as long as possible, but I have no control at all over her exposure to or influence on my daughter. And D12 figured out long ago that her father left because he had this woman as a girlfriend.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012