Hi Pearl, just want to say I hope to one day be as strong as you. To have the will power to choose right now I feel almost desperate. Hanging on every lil 'sign' whether it's just a lead on a real sign.
You are a strong woman, and I admire you. I hope your decision comes pretty easily for you, and very soon, so you can have a happy fulfilled life.
M:28 H:30 DD-9| DD-7| Baby- Due 11/10 T-14 | M-8
10/08- Bomb 4/09- Failed attempt at Marriage Fitness Program 3/10- WH moved out. 7/10- Informed me he's filing in Aug
Tawnya - Why did I know you'd find that funny too?
Lemonsnap - yeah, it has been a crazy week! Thanks for checking in. I may need some Reiki the next trip home so keep in touch.
Sam - I've decided I'm not waiting for actions. I'm moving forward with my life. If and only if xBF starts DOING something will I give him any serious thought.
2gthr - Thanks for stopping by. I really don't think I'm that strong but I appreciate your kind words. Believe me, I was not like this at the beginning. Ask Puppy. But I came to a point when I realized that I have to put me first because no one else will. And I saw him in a completely different light. If he's going to bail on me now, imagine what it would be like if I got cancer or in a serious accident and he bailed because he couldn't handle it. Thank goodness I know his true character now.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
Hmm, I was a little off in my estimate. I thought I would hear from xBF on Friday. This came tonight:
May I visit the kittens sometime Thursday through Sunday?
This is getting tiresome.
First of all, I call them kittens (even though they're 3 and 6). He never has. And again, they're my cats because he wanted no responsibility when I got them.
And what is the point if I'm not going to be here? Just so he can be in the house and snoop through my stuff? Or just to maintain some type of connection?
Ok guys, what's my move? Ignore it? Say no? Say yes? Be out if he comes over? Be here, look fabulous (as always, naturally ), and flit out? Ooh, I could wear my new dress and purple pumps.
Gentlemen and ladies, start your opinions!
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
{{{Pearl}}} cause we are solidarity sisters LOL..and I DID change my quote LOL
As for the kitties thing..I'd be like WHAT in the world..I would think like you did..and did think like that when hub said he was in the house "doing me a favor checking on the cats" whatev while I was gone..IMHO..if he never really cared about them before, I wouldn't keep letting him do that..at least not without you present. I suppose the whether you let him and be there or not at all depends on if you WANT to be around him and see how he is?!
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
"No, it isn't a good time. I am not going to be here."
That's it... Short and sweet..... BUT tons of information that will leave him "curious".. (which is what you want him to feel)
Let's see what his response is to that....
Let him wonder why it isn't a good time for you and let him wonder where you are going to be...
Remember.. This isn't about the "kittens"...
Remember..We HAVE to assume he is still with the OW.
You have done marvelous. Others should be LEARNING from you. Don't give away your power.
HOLD THE LINE....... There is no reason to say or do anything that may come back to haunt YOU until you know without a shadow of a doubt. Time is NOW on YOUR side....
Since you're in the driver's seat now, I'd do whatever's going to make you feel the best. Having him come by as you're on your way out -- looking fab -- sounds good. Especially since you have your new dress and purple pumps.
I vote for continuing to follow Gucci's lead. Eventually, you'll be able to take a "You're no longer entitled to visit MY cats, nor get any answers about my comings-and-goings" stand, but now is not yet the time for that. You're still in "mystique-building" and ju-jitsu mode.
I don't want to see him and I'm very annoyed with him right now so I don't know why he thinks I'll do anything for him.
My only reason for saying yes would be to make it for Saturday night so he'd have to skip seeing OW, or at least cause an inconvenience on date night. I briefly thought about saying yes to Sat then cancelling at the last minute just because I can.
I know, it's childish and vindictive. But that's who I am at times. I'm getting so tired of always taking the high road and being the better person. I just want to get a zinger in.
But I will say no. I'm just waiting until tomorrow morning.
SMW - do you need a refill on that popcorn?
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
Believe me, I was not like this at the beginning. Ask Puppy. But I came to a point when I realized that I have to put me first because no one else will. And I saw him in a completely different light. If he's going to bail on me now, imagine what it would be like if I got cancer or in a serious accident and he bailed because he couldn't handle it. Thank goodness I know his true character now.
), and flit out? Ooh, I could wear my new dress and purple pumps.