My situation #9

[steady]

LOL Mike. She should be going to AA meetings - that's for alcoholics. And she definitely is, but she hasn't gotten to the point where she could admit that to herself. She was telling me about a woman she met last night who goes to AA because she's an alcoholic and she also goes to Al-anon because her husband is an active alcoholic.

And there I was thinking, "You should be doing the same thing."

Al-anon is for anyone who has someone on their life who is an alcoholic. Children of alcoholics, spouses, girlfriends etc...

There is seperate group called ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics) but they are fewer groups and are hard to find in some areas - they work on the dysfunction that occurs in you when you grow up in an alcoholic household. Which both my W and I had growing up.

I think her real motivation is to find out why she picks the men that she picks. She made a comment about how many women at the meeting were nurses and teachers - people who help other people. So she is looking at it from the wrong side still. Blaming me and trying to avoid 'someone' like me - instead of working on her own dysfunction. But if she stays long enough, she'll get to that stuff. But that's her thing.