sex and the WAW

[garyjlost]

Mike:

Thanks for the response.

You asked:
"What is making her so tired all the time?"

Her job isn't easy. She is a teacher of kids with behavioral problems. It can be pretty draining. I know she feels lots of anxiety about her job. She lets it bother her. She doesn't sleep well. She has problems with insomnia.

You asked:
"Does she complain about you at all now (doesn't respect you, or like certain things?)"

Rarely, she doesn't really complain, although she has never really complained much throughout our marriage. She becomes dissatisfied and stews silently. She doesn't want to talk about how the reconciliation is progressing. From her point of view, it must happen without any ongoing analysis. So there will be things that are bothering her, but she doesn't say anything until the behavior continues for several weeks. I've made it clear that I would like for her to talk to me when there are problems, but this rarely happens. We almost never have arguments, but when we do have discussions, I tend to argue my point with a little too much conviction. So rather than deal with that, she just clams up. (I need to learn to back off. It's not important to "prove my point" during all discussions.)