{{Mules}} Yeah..as I've stated on my thread, my 18 yo daughter is the one really struggling and angry at her dad thru that. I talked to my hub about that the other day and he was like "it's obvious she doesn't want to talk to me" and I explained to him that she's so much like him and that it's HARD to get thru that anger..but that HE is going to have to be the one willing to do at least 60% of the work if he ever wants a relationship with her..dunno if it sunk in, but it's the truth..
Overall tho, as hard as it IS for the kids, having someone stable, like you, is going to mean more in the long run than the hard crap they are going thru my friend!
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
mules...it is getting harder and harder to remember what good times were like with STBXW. The years of pain are rapidly equaling up to the years of good. How sad. April 25th would have been/will be our 10th anniversary. It's been three years of hell. You can do the math.
Staying under the same roof is not good. I can say ONE GOOD THING ABOUT IT: it forces a settlement and prevents a dragout D. Don't leave, obviously.
As the months have rolled away, I hear continual divorce horror stories..at least two boys on our baseball team without a dad. I don't find comfort in knowing this...just that I am not alone.
I don't think there is 'an answer' to the high divorce rate.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Update - My W moved out two days ago to go live with her aunt. I found out from my lawyer on Friday night. My W then avoided me for 24 hours before being able to talk about it. I initiated the conversation. She said she is not abandoning the kids or giving up the house but she is making this move to facilitate the divorce. She then had one of her classic conversations with the kids and after spending a few hours with the neighbors moved out on Sunday.
My attorney has an entirely different view. She told told me that my W's attorney said that she is not in an emotional state to make decisions. She instructed her to move out. She also may be willing to negotiate a settlement. My lawyer now thinks this is about money - but my W is saying differently. I am real tied up at work right now but will post more later - I have been in the house with the boys for two days getting them to and from school, etc...
Strength and Honor.
M 43 W 44 M 17 T 22 S16,12,9 Bomb 2/05/08 I served her 1/06/09 S'd 3/15/09 D'd 12/21/09
"Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.
Now more than ever make sure you are taking care of yourself. Use all your resources to make wise decisions. I know a great tattoo parlor in Charleston where we all can get "Strength and Honor" tattoos. Just need to decide on a location now.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
ROFL..THAT is what I should have gotten for my tattoo..dang it! LOLOL..I know it's you MEN who would get that one..hehehe but had to add that tattoo discussion in there
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
I call this abandonment. She is going for full financial support. Push for residential custodial parent. Speak to your L. When they leave they do the pedente lite thing and file for all kinds of support. Be prepared. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
