One of the things that has helped me is something I had posted at towards the end of AFWAW's locked thread

"I'm not sure what kind of music that you are listening to now, but part of my breakaway from the Mr. Nice Guy persona had been to listen to stronger music. I found I had been listening to soft, touchy, feely music as I was down and it was keeping me down. I have started to listen to more upbeat, stronger music to keep me focused. For example, depending on your taste, Kanye West - Stronger or Poison - Open Up and Say Ah album, etc.

You need to create an enviornment that you're not going wallow around in the muck, but an enviornment that will boast you up."

Others had posted other band/album options as well.

I had noticed, that most of us are around 40 here so I've been listening to more 80's Freestyle and rap music too (can't do the rap music with the boys in the truck though). Biggie Small has some pretty powerful stuff too.


Me 41
WAW 36
S 3&7
M 10 yrs
W files D 1/9/09
W moves out 4/18
Lost job 6/15
New job 7/27
Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!)
Confronted 8/11
Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11
Lost Job 11/13