Good points. I too, have found that I can focus now more on the kids, feeling so detached from my W. The other night when I lost it was more of an anomoly and one I don't want to repeat.
I think I've also realized (that I posted somewhere else recently) is that the whole DBing process has the potential to focus so much on your W/H or M, that you lose focus elsewhere. GALing can have some counterbalancing effect, but I don't think it's feasible to work on the M (or not and DB), work on yourself AND focus on your kids, let alone work, etc.
Something I read recently talked about how getting TOO involved even here, can distract the best of us from really getting out there and GALing or doing a good job at work (where I am now). That was a wake-up call for me. It's not to say that this site isn't pure gold - cause it is. It's just that we all need some balance - between or M or D, our selves, kids, work and anything else.
