I find that the more I focus on my W and my R, the more stressed and distracted I get, and the less I am able to focus on my kids. Several times when I was really stressed and focused on my W, I was unable to deal with the little interruptions and stresses that young kids bring.
The more I detach, the better my R with my kids.
Good luck - keep it up.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.