He's ticking down the MLC checklist

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Hello Pretty.

(That was so pirate I'm smiling)

You seem to have an amazing grasp of the situation and that is a good thing, it will serve you well.

Patience at great cost to your emotions...umm, first, that is amazing wording, you write very well. Second, yes for now it will cost your emotion until down the road patience comes from being patient, that time will come for you.

Read the whole of DR, all of it applies. However, the LRT...you're not emotionally capable of it right now...more than likely.

Can you handle a PA from him before his MLC is over?

I know it is hard, but what faults do you have in regard to your marriage? It is hard to look at ourselves and realize that we F-ed up our marriage as well.

Find those faults in you and fix them.

Work on yourself, excercise.

Know this.

There are no quick fixes.

but I have seen a little softening in him in reaction to my calmness, understanding and a little mystery thrown in.

Don't buy into your stupid hope here. (No offense) This isn't the end, what your doing is good, keep doing it, but what you do won't end his MLC. Understand that. And sorry.

I know I'm not managing this process

Bull S hit. You're doing great.

You already know if you have read what you say you have not to talk about your realtionship anymore.

Being 44 with a 5 year old cuts a little down on GAL.

Lame old excuses don't fly here. You seem very capable and intelligent enough to figure out a way to GAL. So do it, instead of spending time saying why you can't use the time to figure out a way that you can.