Trying flirting on for size!

[BeingMe]

Some advice from the Dr. Phil website:

"Realize You Must Be the Eyes and Ears for Your Child
During adolescence – from ages 11 to 20 – a child’s brain continues to change and develop, causing a child to behave without reasoning. “Sometimes, at this age especially, they’re not really ready to engage with boys in a way that they can think clearly,” Dr. Siegel says. Parents must see around the corners for their children to keep them safe, because kids cannot predict the consequences of their actions."

And, check out this article about parenting during a divorce:

http://drphil.com/articles/article/242

I can see quite a few 'mistakes' your H is committing. But, he isn't going to change anytime soon, by the looks of things. He just doesn't 'get it', that it's not about you and him anymore, but about the children and allowing this break in the family to go as easy for them as possible (he is just thinking about himself and his so-called happiness). I think you're pretty much on your own as far as D13 is concerned, in being the reasonable parent. And if he gets her to live with him, I think she is going to use you and he against each other (and it will be easy with his attitude) and you will have her flip flopping between the two of you.

So, with all this looming over your head, plus that you work, you still have to make time to let off steam at some point over your spare time. You have a battle that must be fought for the next 5 years. Sometimes, it will just be forays, but other times it will be full battles with 'bombs' exploding. Choose the hill you are willing to die on and let other things go. But please make time to go AWOL and relax.

Once the D is final, I suspect it will be a little easier because one thing will be sorted out and not looming ahead for you. Your H will not be able to use threats and schemes to manipulate you.

Sorry, another novel. But, I worry about you very much and hope just one little thing will help you in your sitch.

Take care.