First of all thanks for all of the support. I am able to view this all from a detached point of view. We are getting along now better than we have in a long time. Focusing on the kids and being great co-parents. Many would disagree with me here but I am going to file and complete the D.
She is just too unstable financially and I need to be able to take care of my kids. She needs to feel what it is to truley be responsible for herself. She may very well be in a fog or MLC. I just know I need to not be M to her while she goes through this, whatever and wherever it takes her.
I haven't given up on her but I will need to be Divorced but not Done guy. I told her a couple days ago that she probably won't always feel this way. I also told her I was going down my own path. I said that if she ever had thoughts in the future about a future together I hoped that she wouldn't be too proud to approach me about it. I said I couldn't guarantee where I would be at but I left the door open for her in theory..
At this point I am completely dropping the rope and finishing the D. We will then see what the future holds.. God is central to my life and I pray that his will be done here. However it turns out.
V
***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***
Me: 43 W: 38 SD-15 S(s): 12,9,7 Separated-2/14/2009 My sitch
I'm really sad to hear what you've decided. Please reconsider. I don't want to sound preachy, but I must speak the truth. God is not at the center of a decision to go against His will. He put the two of you together, and only He can take the two of you apart. I know that what you are going through is very difficult, but it is not something that our Heavenly Father cannot relate to. Jesus sacrificed for us to the point of a humiliated death on the cross; you nor I have ever gone to that point, yet we are called to take up our cross just as Jesus did. Please pray about this and seek God's word for encouragement. I hope you will be convicted not to file for divorce.
I have and will continue to pray for you. Please don't think I think this is easy, becaus I know it is not. But nothing worth having is easy to get.
Thank you. God really is good, patient, gracious, and loving. He cares for us all deeply, and marriage is one of His most valued and beautiful creations. I know that if we all would seek to submit to His will in our lives He would turn and heal us and our marriages. Nothing can be done without him. I had to learn this for myself.
I'm so sorry to hear that, Jeff. I pray that whatever God has in store for you, that it brings you blessings and happiness, and that you and your wife will treat each other with a grace that will keep the door open for the future.
Thanks again. Pup I really think what you said is what this is about for us. I can't sit here and be married to someone else's GF. I love her too much to ride that roller coaster. I need to walk my own path and she her's. She will NEVER (very stubborn) value our relationship until it is really gone.
I would love to reconcile with her in the future, which I believe would serve God's will equally. Spiritually and scripturally I can do this. I don't want this but I believe it is a necessary step.. I have prayed about it incessantly and have been given my answer.
I will still be here. I need to give back whatever I can as it has been given to me..
V
***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***
Me: 43 W: 38 SD-15 S(s): 12,9,7 Separated-2/14/2009 My sitch
I agree. I think that it's possible that when people move on either positive or negative result it may be a difficult to make the time or to be reminded.
Too bad because after they have been through this is when they are very helpful to others that are new.
BTW, how are you an W doing? Still stuck?
V
***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***
Me: 43 W: 38 SD-15 S(s): 12,9,7 Separated-2/14/2009 My sitch
I just think what a mess I was when I got here, and Puppy and Theoden and yoyo and others really saved me. And now I do feel a little bit of paying it forward. Plus truthfully I just really love the people here too. And you know we go through so much of the same stuff!!! Karen
