It seems to be working.... sometimes #2

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

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First of all--I am glad that surgery went well and you are comfortable enough to post.

Now--apparently I need to go borrow some lumber from Mike's pile of 2x4s.


YOU are being your own worst enemy right now. You are allowing thoughts of a non-entity to consume your life. STOP IT!! Your H is home, has said he wants to be home, has said he loves you! I would sell one of my kids, even one I liked, to hear and have all of that.

How can you expect him to get past it if you won't let it go? If you are thinking about it even half as much as you have posted about it, then you are thinking about it too much. Those thoughts will affect your mood and attitude when the two of you are together. You need to live your life with intentional thought. You are allowing the enemy to control your thoughts, instead of forcing him out.

Just as love is a decision, so is letting things go. If it constantly invades your thoughts, you have not truly forgiven your H. Forgiveness is not a one time thing, it is in layers that go deeper and deeper, depending on the level of involvement that the person you need to forgive has in your life.

I am finishing up a class at church that you might want to look in to for you--for both of you, if H attends church. It is called CrossCurrents and is designed to help people heal from realational brokenness. ALL relationships. I have dealt with issues with my FOO, DH, the OW.

I hope I have not offended you, but I love you too much to see you hurting like this. I just want you to really examine your heart and get alone with God about all of this. Contact me in the alt and call me. I want to get you a book from the course so that even if it is not offered locally, you can work it through on your own. I will be here for you if you want me to be.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW