Then you need to consider the Family Night with just you and the kids. This EA or PA will probably implode or explode sooner than later. And when it does, she'll want to join in on Family Night. Besides, you sound like you adore your kids. Minimum it will give you more time with them.
I would lay down my life for my children . It pains me to see them in pain . For the last three years I was their mother and father while the W pursued herm Ph.D .
So then maybe concentrate on keeping them leveled and happy. Maybe she'll come around, maybe she'll implode....who knows? My H is crazy too, but it doesn't mean they have to take us with them down the rabbit hole. Concentrate on the kids and you're going to be doing fine and the right thing. My son is my rock right now and he doesn't even know it.
I read about your set back . Sorry . I just believe she is ashamed to face or talk with me due to the affair , having me removed form the home by police , forgery , etc.... She has made me out to be a monster to her friends and if she went back with me she would look bad and maybe they might think she was lying to them .
Sure. I completely understand. My H has done the same thing, in terms of talking to to many people. But that can resolve itself over time. I think it would start with Oh, we're on speaking terms now....for the kids. Then it grows to We're getting along quite well now....no not because the kids, we're grown ups after all. Then He's doing great, we went to dinner the other night with the kids.....you get it. It will just take time. The reality is, if people hear you divorce they say "O, that's too bad." When they hear you made it, "O, great for them." It really doesn't register with anyone either way.
