You don't need to say anything when dealing with your ex-spouse.
Keep it to email. Deal only with the facts.. no "I think", "You blah blah" no emotion or finger pointing. When you feel the bite of her words or the emotions rising, walk away.. do not respond. It isn't what she says that's effecting you.. it's what within you that's making you feel bad.
You're a really good guy. Give yourself some of that incredible love you offer to others.
*hugs*
PS.. are you still in counseling?
Instantly forgive her in your mind. That helps you own the chord that was struck. It sounds like you get angry/hurt that she treats you with disrespect. Forgive her, it's not her fault that that's a trigger that sets you off. Respect yourself.
Embrace the positive changes you're making for yourself.
Imagine if you hear someone saying over and over again.. "Respect me, respect me." Would you? It comes from within.
Now.. this is a GOOD thing because you're at a stage you can hear it and possibly do something about it.
Let your ex wife own her own garbage. Don't take it on. But do work on taking your trash out. It only helps you in the end.
