Looking for outside help/interactions (on purpose or inadvertently) always comes back to bite you in the patookie. This is between YOU and your SPOUSE.
Do not say anything to his mom. This will only fuel the resentment he feels toward you.. and it makes you look like the bad guy, manipulating the situation.
He can say whatever he wants. His choice.
What do you do for you? The better person you are, the better you feel through this now and in the future. Be honest with yourself. Address your issues. Let go of trying to take responsibility for crap that isn't yours.
Like Puppy said, "Not Just Friends" is an excellent book to read and very grounding in your situation. "Codependent No More" is an eye openner, too.
If you think of how unfair it is how he gets away with stuff.. you lose, because it's all about him.
If you focus on how you can move forward in a positive way.. then it's about you and your growth.
Choices.
You're worth it.
*hugs*
PS.. it's not your job to 'fix' him.. be good to you. Do what helps you to grow.
