Mindblank #2 - "Stuck as friends..."

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Well, I did NOT hug him and express my appreciation... I decided it didn't really sound like me. Wasn't natural to me. I would do/say something to him like that, just not in that way, and not out of the blue.

He would be okay with a hug.

However, I did take some advice from the Light His Fire book, and compliment him; make him feel good about himself. Our S11 tested into Honors Geometry for next year (7th grade), and I told him about it tonight. Later this evening, he came in to tell me goodbye, and I told him I was just thinking about what a great math mind he has. How he can figure out the most difficult combination's of numbers, problems, etc... in him mind, without a calculator or paper is really a gift.

He said, "Well, W, it does come easy to me. Just like you know where to put commas, what the parts of sentences are, and exactly what tense of word to use, without thinking!"

Funny... I feel like this weekend, and tonight, the fog might be lifting ever so slightly. He's starting to reach out to a few old friends, and checking in with some of his family members (told me in a backwards, round-about way. If I asked him about his distance over this past year, he had kind of pushed it aside, with a comment about not having enough time for us, let alone them... And, he's more engaging. Looking around the house for me, to see if I want to watch American Idol with him tonight, when he would usually spend most of his time (when he's in town during the week) in the kids room's, his office, etc... He gets very little sleep during the week, so once we had watched it (on DVR), he asked if I wanted to watch the results show, too. I told him to go ahead and take a nap or something. I knew he was tired, and was going to be awake until the early am, once he left tonight. He said, "No, I'd rather do this. I'll just have a Diet Mountain Dew instead of a nap."

So, with this hint of hope, and my stepping back, just a bit again, and doing my own thing, (A friend of ours owns a very successful indoor sports facility, had to make some management changes today-off-site, and asked me to go in, in their absence, and handle changing email passwords, forwarding to new addresses, creating new logins to their accounting system, etc... and being a solid presence while the locks to the building were changed. I think H admires my ability to be able to do something he knows nothing about. He wanted to know all about what I needed to do for them today.) I didn't want to say anything unnatural to me, that hinted at pressure, and back him off.

Detaching. Well, I didn't think about him at all from 9-3 (busy!), and I didn't contact him, except to see what time he'd be home to prepare dinner (around sports activities), and hung up promptly after giving my answer. Not sure that's detaching, or not. But, it's definitely not pursuing!

Be good, all.

I REALLY APPRECIATE ALL OF YOU!!! Even if I hate your words sometimes! LOL

ST - Any helpful hints on how you MADE IT? I think I'll read your threads!