Yes, BBJ. Of course I meant that he was stupid. I cannot understand how anyone can ruin his own life by falling in love with a piece of property he can't afford. And as you know, I am a realtor. I help people buy and sell property all the time. And I can tell you, for every house or piece of land they miss out on, there are several others just as good or better. And yes, there's sentimental value. But I believe there is greater sentimental value in one's family than in any 20 acres. Besides, if he really must have those 20 acres, he could make a very good offer to the current owners, and they might take it. Or he can wait, and the day will come when the property turns over again. But, I am being rational and logical, and there is no room for logic in his feelings. I understand that. But if I had been having that conversation over the bbq, I would not have been able to resist telling him that I thought he was stupid.
And I disagree. You did not deserve to find him in a hotel room with another woman because he couldn't afford to buy the piece of land he wanted. That was unjustified. You did not wrong him by pointing out that your finances could not be stretched to cover his fantasy.
