I should hate my ex. But he does love my kids and they love him. He's going to be at all their life events and I want my kids to be happy despite the stupidity of their parents. They graduated from high school last June and it's so wonderful to see them happy despite both of their parents attending. My sons came up to me and asked me if they could go to lunch with X and his parents after the ceremony. I told them of course - go. Hey, getting a smile, a double kiss on my cheeks, and the sheer look of happiness is worth it.
Later on that night, they told me that they wished they'd gone with us instead because the grandparents took them to a fancy place that didn't give them enough food!
Two weeks ago, one of them had his wisdom teeth removed (I hope THAT works!) and both X and I went with him. We chat and don't hate one another. I know what he did and he knows, so why worry about small stuff.
Now, on the other hand, make sure you protect your future and don't give it away. I don't think I could be cordial to my X if I was living in poverty while he lived the high life. But If I were it would be because I allowed myself to be taken advantage of.
