My wife has told me that she wants me to move out by the end march, today is march 11, but all of you say that I should stay. here is the problem, she says that it is because of the choiices that I had made that has lead us to this point, so therefor I must leave. Otherwise there will never be any hope for our relationship even though there is little to no hope now. So yesterday I matter of factly told her I was completely against me moving out. I said that I willing able to do anything to save our marriage and I am also unwilling to send the message to my two young sons that I am going to walk out on my family. She then became very upset and said, "so you are telling me that you refuse to leave". I responded by saying, "I am just being matter of fact that this is the wrong thing to do and that the only thing I have left is to be the best man I can be and the best father I can be and by me leaving because she is kicking me out is wrong". She then told me no matter what I have to leave, she also said again that it was my choice to be emotionally and verbally abusive to her so when she was trying everything to change things, but now she is not going to try any more. How do i respond to that, my gut says to respect it, she is right about the fact that she was trying when I wasn't giving 100% and I did make horrible choices in how I reacted to her. at that point in the conversation I just listed to her and validated and apalogized from the bottom of my heart. I also told her that no matter what happens I will never give up on her and that the changes that have occured in me since she dropped the separation bomb will not go away wether we stay together or not.
PLEASE CRITIQUE HOW i DEALT WITH/REPONDED TO THE CONVERSATION AND GIVE ANY SOUND ADVICE YOU CAN.
