2X4! Ha! I wouldn't have been able to resist saying, "That shows how stupid you are!"
Sara,
I am tired/sick so you have to elaborate for me. You mean, HE is stupid for letting that be the reason we can't get back together? If so, I agree. I think letting your wife find you in a hotel with another woman is sufficient payback, don't you? He doesn't get the whole "Start over with a clean slate" mentality.
Actually, he probably gets it very well. It just means he has to give up his anger and apparently, he likes it too much. Because as long as I ruined his life, he can keep screwing things up indefinitely, right?
