First post... looking for advice and where I'm at.

[sweet-1]

I'm not sure how long it's been going on, I suspect before we separated as there were alot of trips out of town. She has filed for divorce, but it seems kind of hurried and may have been to prove a point (?).Her family doesn't know about the affair, they thought they were just friends, I'm still not entirely sure if he's married or not, as I've been concentrating on myself and the kids for the last few mos. I think I'm going to let it sit for a couple of weeks, and if the divorce proceeds, then we can discuss it.

She keeps telling the kids about how her happiness is the most important thing here, and how her parents divorce (very bitter and abusive) made her a stronger person. Apparently, she won't be in the same room with them when he calls, she goes out in the hallway and talks for an hour or so. The kids don't like going to her place because it's so small and she ignores them for the phone and computer.

My lawyer doubts if we'll be able to go through with collaborative, as do I.