Sometimes its my life I can't taste

[Sugar and Spice]

Ok, that is what I thought it might be, but I started wondering if there might already be some legal paperwork out there that I missed.
I hope you are having a great day sweetie!

We have been LS since July and he has taken his name off of my house deed so it is solely in my name and we have a settlement agreement on file with the LS paperwork. My bases are covered My parents had crazy children, not stupid children.

Vicky, glad this mess could give you a bit of encouragement. My H didn't leave because of or in spite of the kids, they really didn't factor into the decision. Just as they don't factor into the decision to come home or D. Its been a long haul and there is an even longer road ahead.

Today has been a bad day because he is in blame mode, the only difference now is I refuse to accept or be a part of it. I call BS on BS.

As far as his D with OW, I'm not entirely sure how that is going to work. Ideally I would be open to incorporating her into our lives. I don't want to be her mother, just someone who can be supportive of her and be a friend. I'm with you on the ending the A. That is what we have talked about. I have told him that there are certain things that I need in order for this to work. Unless or until he makes a committment to me and trying to work on our M though, the non-negotiables are really not an issue. He knows enough for right now and can plan accordingly.

It is not a choice of a child over a M because they are not the same kind of R or love. Any woman that would choose to withold a child from their father because he is no longer with them is using emotional blackmail and it sucks. The thing that frustrates me is his apparent lack of insight that he has rights too. That or his refusal to exercise his rights. She doesn't make all of the rules and his choice to believe that bugs me because he is using it as and excuse & or falling for being held emotionally hostage. Either way, not something I am willing to deal with anymore.

I'll read up on your sitch and good luck to you. The addition of a child from an A just makes a hard situation harder because there will always be contact and a reminder.