Retrouvaille saved me - AN #3

[AnotherNightmare]

You are very welcome. It feels good giving back. When I came here 5 months ago, I was as desperate, anxious and probably angry as every newcomer on this BB. You may not believe it yet, but at the end of your journey you will be a better person and you will be the one helping the newcomers.

As far as Retro is concerned, it might just take some time. My W was not open to it initially either. There was an OM, and she had had with me. She saw absolutely no chance for our M. After a while though, she realized she had nothing to lose. Worst case, after the Retro weekend we would be exactly where we were before (even though I believe that has probably never happened with any couple going there). I do not know what ultimately changed her decision, maybe it was a combination of the changes she saw in me, the responsibility she felt for our kids, and maybe a little bit of fear of putting everybody through the trauma of D. It does not really matter to me. She did go, and it was the most overwhelming experience and dramatic results for me that 12 months of IC would not have accomplished. I will be forever grateful to her.