I have neighbors (my parent's neighbors actually) who were married, had a son, divorce when he was very young. They were divorced for 9 years. He was engaged, never went through with it and the neighbors remarried, had three more sons. A good friend of mine from college....his mom and dad were married for 2 years. Divorce. She remarries, has a son, divorces. She remarries her first husband and they have my friend. He loves to tell that story. It does happen.
My words seem to mean nothing to my wife, at least on the surface of things. Her repsonse to anything relationship wise is , one word, thanks.Actions must speak louder.It illicits expectation from me to expect a different response. So no more words.She already knows how I feel, it is like beating a dead horse, useless.
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I have been Awol I needed a break I was becoming addicted to the forum. You are right about actions over words. My wife recently said she was leaving om but two days later right back at it. So when she says something I don't get excited until I see actions.
Jeff
ME 44 W 32 M 5 T 6
no kids
June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
I have been off the boards awhile myself, been on a business trip.Not much has been going on in my situation, just waiting for the final decree, Wife seems to be very withdrawn, very negative. I feel bad for her.
Last edited by craig54; 03/09/0904:45 PM.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
It is official, I am no longer married as of today. Sort of numb right now. I am not sure how I feel, sad I guess, a little angry at the whole situation. I have not talked to my ex wife, strange calling her that.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
My ex-wife just came over a few minutes ago. She wanted to tell me that the divorce was final, she did not know I had received the paperwork from her lawyer today. She could tell I was upset. I could not hold it in. I told her she finally got what she wanted after 18 months. I said know your name is back to your maiden name. She said she did that because my first wife kept my last name and I really did not want her to keep it. My ex, said she thought that I would not want her to keep it. I said, maybe you should have asked my opinion.She said she does not like having a different name than the kids.I said , well it is too late now.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
I actually slept ok last night, I am still angry, sad, numb, just a bundle of different emotions.I removed the pictures of us in the hallway, why? I just felt like doing something with my anger and hurt.I could tell she was very uncomfortable last night.At the time i did not care.I took a vacation day to just be by myself, I need to come to grips with my anger and emotions and realize this is not the end of the world. This was her decision and she will have to live with her decisions.I am extremely disappointed in her, she gave up so easily, without a fight, just gave up.I thought she was a stronger person.I was wrong.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
I don't think she was trying to rub it in.But she is in MLC, she did not know her lawyer mailed the final decree to me.
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