Que Sera, Sera - Whatever Will Be, Will Be

[lemonsnap]

Well! It's been a while since I've posted anything. There is a definite positive side to that. Two weeks ago, I couldn't make it through the day without coming to this site for encouragement and to help me cope. At this point, I'm coming more to provide an update and to check in on some of your current situations.

H and I have had a very good week. Since our "breakthrough" conversation we have both been making big efforts to make personal improvements and meet each other in the middle on a number of topics.

Yesterday I was particularly pleased. H was stressed about school and getting a project done. He asked for my help and was frustrated about things. Rather than reacting and being overly sensitive, I simply detached a bit from the emotions of the situation and didn't react. I just let him vent and remained calm. Afterwards, he actually said "I'm sorry, I'm just really tired and stressed." What a lovely change - both on his part AND on mine. It's been so empowering to realize that I don't have to be drawn into and react to every exchange between us. I feel much more in control of my own emotions and better able to confront conflicts between us in a way that keeps them minor rather than blowing them up.

We purchased a new sofa for the apartment that's being delivered tomorrow. We've donated a bunch of items we no longer needed and are working to keep the apartment tidier.

We had planned to attend a MC appointment on Sunday, but the MC had to cancel last minute. We've rescheduled for this weekend.

Oh - and I cut my hair! It's something I'd wanted to do for a long time but just hadn't worked up the nerve. On Saturday I biked downtown to the local beauty school - over 9 inches of hair gone! It feels great. I've got really short hair - perhaps the shortest ever. It feels great and is really easy to manage. Um, why didn't I do it sooner?

Hugs to you all.