I think taking care of her last week set me up for a fall too.
Correct. Because you slid back into old behaviors. Forgive yourself and move on.
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How do you stop caring? How do you stop loving? I can relate to the detaching part and I wish I didn't care or love her. But that's not the case at this particular time.
Acknowledge that you love and care but also acknowledge that it is not returned. Acknowledge that her treatment of you is unacceptable. And after you acknowledge these things let the thoughts go. Reclaim your strength and commitment to yourself.
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So in reality, I can't always do it by myself. That's why I reach out.
You do this all yourself. We just guide you back to the path. All the work is YOURS. And you should reach out, that's how we know to guide you back. Well, most of us guide you back, someone thumps you back on path, but it all works.
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I'm working on keeping my mind in today, in this moment, and when I see my mind wandering backwards or forwards I keep bringing it back to the present.
Right that's what I mean about acknowledging thoughts. If they come into your mind, recognize them and pull your focus to the task at hand - the present moment - your current focus - YOU.
