Last night was the first time I read your thread to get caught up with your sitch. Our sitch has so much in common. My H also had an A that produced a child. I know the A did not start serious but b/c of the child he feels trapped an obligated. Although we have been together for a long time, we don't have any children together (I put my education first and then when we were ready ran into fertility problem and was dealing with the A which didn't help). Anyway, hope you don't mine me saying this but your sitch was a bit encouraging for me b/c sometimes I struggle with thinking that if I had a child with my H we wouldn't be here and being that you have children and your H still left made me feel a little better. In my gut though I know that not having children wasn't the issue. If that was it H would have wanted us to try all the fertility means possible but he didn't want to.
Anyway, glad to hear you and your H are reconnecting again. Like everyone said, take it slow and definitely have the talk about what you are looking for. If I get the opportunity I plan too. Good luck and I rooting for you.
