WAW - Very confused and devestated - pt 4

[confusedinpa]

Finally! A little light shines through.

You did good last night and I think all of us have given you great concrete examples to work with.

Keep it up. Put things on your terms.

Let us know how counseling goes.

Stuck808,

Thanks for your support. Hopefully you didn't break too many 2x4's with all that smacking on me.

The concrete examples will really help me - as you can see by how dense I am. Even after being together with my wife for over 11 years, she still doesn't understand how dense I am...

I know consistency is the key. I hadn't realized how she was reacting when I was trying to use the words/terms from a book. Guess I missed that cue.

I really hope that she goes to the next counseling session - it seems like it's just getting to the point where it can be helpful. I guess the first several of digging in the past was to give the counselor/therapist insight. I really hope she finds a therapist to talk to because then that can work on it at both ends.

My therapist even felt that I am starting to get to a better place.

I just need to keep my anxieties under check as in the past when things started to get better, I was always worried about the other shoe dropping.

Now I know if it drops, I have more tools to handle it.

One thing I do know, is the intimacy that happened the last 2 Thursday's isn't going to happen this week since it's a bad time of the month for her. Could be a good thing as it seems like everytime it happened, she goes off the deep end again.

Thanks for all your help.