BobbiJo- You sound like you're in a good place right now, detaching well. I have one suggestion: when your h brings up the "lost dream" again, do not defend yourself. Validate, validate and then validate some more.

me- 42
H- 51
married 11 years
D-9, S-9, D-3

bomb 4/07
h moved out 8/07
h moved back 4/08