I read your first post and the last. So, I am sorry if I missed something. I am not myself right now.
But, you must not try to talk to him while he is intoxicated you will get nowhere.
And, when reading about the excuses or things he says while ml so reminds me of my husband. I didn't listen closely. I held him up on a pedestal. This man went four years without touching me.
I had to ask him to make love to me. He would come into my bedroom at 12 or 12am. To do his duty. I was grateful for what little I got. He wasn't saying I love you I confronted him. He finally said I love you with the love of the Lord.
One time he also said remember that thing I used to do to you? Well, I always did it to please you I always found it disgusting. It didn't sink in that he was getting his self satisfied and cared nothing about me.
So,listen carefully. We tend to live in a dreamworld because we just can't believe that it could happen to us.
Don't beg this man for anything.It just makes you look weaker. You must work on making yourself.
